Mother’s experiences of shame and compassion in the early postnatal period: a thematic analysis

Mothers are less likely to seek support from maternity care providers who appear critical or judgmental. While compassion from providers can help mitigate the impact of shame, the experiences of shame within a mothers' close support network remains unexplored. The aim of the present study was to explore mothers' experiences of shame and compassion within their support networks in the early postpartum period. Fourteen mothers were recruited when their babies were approximately 3-months old from a larger Australian study on shame and compassion. A thematic analysis of semi-structured interviews was undertaken. Six themes were identified by the authors: (1) unravelling judgment; (2) are you with me or against me?; (3) the voice of doubt: am I failing at this?; (4) when mothering ideals don't work out: managing shame in your village; (5) finding the right kind of support; and (6) weaving kindness into your role as a mother. All mothers, regardless of who shamed them turned towards others who were sensitive, sympathetic, and empathic, to cope with the shame experience. Shame experiences can significantly influence mothers' willingness to access support, impacting their mental health. Maternity care providers can play a critical role in recognising and addressing these dynamics to foster a more supportive environment. Understanding the complexities of shame and compassion can guide providers in creating compassionate care strategies that better serve mothers during this vulnerable period.