Expressing Negativity Enhances Support From Romantic Partners, Even for Trivial Stressors

Receiving high-quality support confers many benefits. Yet, little is known about how support-seekers can elicit high-quality support. In two experiments and a couples’ interaction study, we examined how (and why) expressing negative thoughts and feelings affects romantic partners’ support and considered whether this depends on the severity of the stressor the support-seeker is facing. In Study 1, romantically involved participants who read a high (vs. low)-negative expressivity support-seeking text message wrote higher-quality support responses in both serious and trivial stressor contexts. Study 2 conceptually replicated these effects with new stressors. In Study 3, support-seekers who expressed more (vs. less) negativity during a face-to-face conversation with their romantic partner about a recent stressor received support higher in regulatory effectiveness (an index of support quality). Mediation analyses in Studies 2 and 3 suggested that negativity may enhance support, even for trivial stressors, by increasing provider perceptions that support is needed.